Passion Island
Passion Island

By Tana Marie

Feelings are a "Feed Forward System"


Feelings are a "Feed Forward System" - they move from one emotion to the next in a natural flow and are a very real experience for the person who feels them.

When your partner expresses their feelings – either positive or negative – listen without judgment and validate their experience. Let them know that it's OK to have those feelings, even if you don't understand where they came from or disagree with them.

Remember: When you invalidate your partner's feelings, they become defensive, feel unloved and usually withdraw their emotional connection with you. Never try to "talk someone out of their feelings" – it's their experience, let them have it. Try to understand why they feel that way, especially if you played a part in those feelings, and use compassionate communication to find a solution or at least get on the same page with them. You'll both be happier in the long run!


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