Passion Island
Passion Island

By Tana Marie

"How much energy do you put into sex and romance when you are first getting to know someone, and how much do you put in after you are involved in a long-term relationship? Does your enjoyment of sex and romance depend more upon how much energy you devote to it, or upon how long you've know someone?"

Question #97
The Book of Questions
Love & Sex

One of the most common complaints I hear from my female clients is that once their partner has established the romance, he tends to go on "Auto–pilot" and stops putting as much emotional energy into the relationship. (Guys, women HATE that!)

Now while most people don't put as much energy into maintaining a relationship as they did creating it, it certainly doesn't mean that either partner should start to take the relationship for granted. Assuming that your partner is satisfied with an occasional show of affection is a dangerous one. Many break-ups have occurred because of that one simple behavior.

Romance isn't just about the courtship phase, it is an essential component of an ongoing, healthy relationship. You don't' have to work hard at maintaining your romance, but as with tending a garden, it DOES take ongoing care and attention.


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